Now let me be totally clear about something, I'm not saying that your baby's health isn't the most important thing. I am saying it is not the only important thing! Pregnancy and birth makes parents just as much as babies! All too often I hear people's birth trauma dismissed with "Oh well, at least you have a healthy baby". Like that can somehow erase birth trauma, obstetric violence, negative outcomes, PTSD or PND suffered by both parents. Anything that happens during birth which impacts your physical or mental well-being matters. It directly affects how you perceive what happened to you and how you then care for and raise your baby.

Stop telling people their trauma/concerns/feelings aren't important just because they have a healthy baby at the end of it.