Birth planning should be viewed as a partnership between the expectant mother and her healthcare team, rather than a top-down approach where decisions are dictated. This collaborative model emphasizes informed choice, mutual respect, and shared decision-making. It acknowledges the unique needs, preferences, and values of the mother while ensuring that medical expertise is utilized to support a safe and positive birth experience. When women are involved in the planning process and their voices are heard, it fosters trust and empowerment, leading to better outcomes for both mother and baby.

The term "allowed" often surfaces in maternity care, highlighting an imbalance of power that can undermine a woman's autonomy. It implies permission must be granted by healthcare providers for the mother to make decisions about her own body and birth experience. This language can contribute to feelings of disempowerment and can create an adversarial relationship between the mother and her caregivers. By shifting the language and approach to one of collaboration and respect, we can promote a more positive, empowering, and respectful birthing environment.