One person is usually the more submissive partner, while the other is more dominant. The sub is not under the Dominant’s coercive control. They are an equal member in the power exchange. Understanding what the Dom/sub dynamic is, how it functions, and how to negotiate around it in your own relationship(s) is key to creating the kinky sex life of your dreams. It is the base layer. It is the fundamental configuration of role play.

Navigating sexual relationships with a history of exploring power dynamics requires open communication, consent, and self-awareness. Discuss your boundaries, desires, and any concerns with your partner. Prioritize mutual respect and consent, and be attentive to each other's comfort levels. It's also important to regularly check in and adjust based on your evolving feelings and experiences. If needed, consider seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor who specializes in relationships or sexuality.