Sexual shame is feeling wrong or bad about sexual acts, feelings or desires. People are not born feeling sexually ashamed, rather some people learn along the way from negative messages, judgements or poor/absent education.

An entire generation of people are encountering crippling sexual shame and pain as they wrestle with their sexual desires and interests, in a world for which they were unprepared.

It's challenging but here are some tips ;

1 Self-Reflection - Take time to reflect on your beliefs, values, and how they align with your current feelings about sexuality. Consider whether these beliefs still resonate with you and if they need adjustment.

2 Education - Educate yourself about healthy relationships, consent, and sexual health. Learning more can help you feel empowered and make informed decisions.

3 Communication - Open and honest communication with your partner is crucial. Share your history and feelings with them, and encourage them to do the same. This can foster understanding and a supportive environment.

4 Challenge negative thoughts - When feeling of shame or guilt arise, challenge them by questioning their origin and validity. Remember that your feelings are shaped by your upbringing, and it's okay to reassess and evolve.

Remember that you deserve a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship, and it's okay to take steps to address and overcome any challenges from your past.