Much of your argument can be found in this Guardian article (https://www.google.co.in/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2010/jan/27/mohandas-gandhi-women-india)

It is a very narrow view of Gandhi’s contribution to humanity, women empowerment and caste/racial equality.

Firstly the episodes that you are referring about cutting the hair was in South Africa. Gandhi evolved from his days as a young satyagrahi in SA.

The fundamental premise of understanding Gandhi is that everything he did in life was an experiment. He never claimed he knew it all. Truth to him was a constant persuasion. What was true yesterday was based on facts available till day before and it changes. In fact a lot of regressive views of Gandhi in SA became radically different towards his later part. That to me is his greatness, a willingness to change.

While he thought women had a bigger role in kitchen, it was coming from his own and societal conditioning. But do not forget he was responsible for bringing thousands of women to politics and leadership. There is no leader in history who mentored so many first generation of women leaders into politics. Look at this way, a man conditioned to believe women belong to kitchen brought so many women to leadership and pioneered a tradition of women in positions of responsibilities.

Now about Sexual desires and experiment. For sure, it looks obnoxious that he asked his nieces to sleep next to him naked. It is consistent with his experimentations. We may not agree with it. Also, are we accusing Gandhi of coercing them against their will? I doubt.

Sometime in the eagerness to critique, we subject Gandhi to minute scrutiny and pick up episodes to justify the points. For sure, one will find many such instances.

Before critiquing Gandhi, we should spend time thinking the circumstances of his time. Even several decades after we legally banned untouchability, it is still practiced. So imagine the adverse circumstances when he had to fight it first time. He had a tough assignment of bringing so many warring factions to agree on a common minimum program before taking next step.