Hands up 🙌 if you've had painful sex but didn't say anything because you didn't want to make a big deal ? Pain during sex shouldn't be a secret ! It shouldn't make you feel like you're bad at sex or you're a bad sexual partner . we really need to talk about painful sex ! Don't feel embarrassed . It's not your fault .

If you're in pain , stop . It doesn't matter if your partner isn't finished , if they'd like to continue , or if you can 'put up with it' Sex shouldn't be put up with , it should be pleasurable to all partners .

You can still have great sex & be a great partner without doing certain acts . There's lots more ways to experience pleasure than just penis/finger/toy in vagina' sex . Some great non-vaginal sex acts are ;

1 Super long kissing .
2 oral
3 light fingering on the clit (if that's not too sensitive)
4 grinding , breast massage & anal stimulation (with a finger/tongue).

Remember - You are valuable , loveable and your pain is not something you should apologise for !

And if you're experiencing pain during sex regularly and you're not aware of the cause , please see a doctor ! We've normalised painful sex for too long !