I am Vanitaa Rawat. Senior consultant for Shakti Foundations Abhaya Project.

So how do I train girls.

We took a double ponged approach, On day one we talked a lot and listened a little, On day two we just listened. About these young girls, their problems and their perceived solutions.

I didn't want to hold them. The solutions had to work from their point of view.How would they go ahead with the problem.

What however worked was I, could relate to them and they could to me.

We shared similar backgrounds may be similar situations.

I come from a very poor background. We are six brothers and sister, my father was a senior level officer but he passed away when I was one year old. I was the youngest child and my oldest sibling was 14 years older. My mother was illiterate, only in terms of not being able to read and write but actually she was the most learned person.

After our father passed away, we saw very bad days. I have actually seen pure hunger, with no food, no support. But I tell everyone, inspite of poverty the best life I have lived was during my childhood because we were a very strong family. When I narrated my story to the girls, I could immediately strike a cord.

I told them how I started working from third standard . I did tutions from class 7. It was 1970s, 1980, I would get one rupee after three days-my siblings had to work harder.

But I have been raised by a very strong women. My family is matriarchal, women have always had a say and men generally follow. So when you are dealing with issues like violence against women, where you are coming from, how you are raised makes a lot of difference. In talk about India raising girls as perfect as boys brave . this should not be the case . '

I tell them if I can fight and achieve what I want to do can they. Nothing can limit their flight.