Postpartum sex is a logistical issue as much as any other issue. When you both feel ready, the baby has gone down to sleep and you are getting down to it but, it doesn't feel like it did.... or like you expect. So many things are not spoken about when it comes to returning to sex postpartum. Maybe that is because it is still an uncomfortable subject for some. But considering that's usually how you get a baby in there there is no need to be shy.

So here are 6 things you should know before getting down to it;

1 There is no "right time" - Some people return to sex with their partner 4-6 weeks after birth, others a bit longer. It isn't just about being physically ready, but mentally ready too. When you feel the time is right, then go for it.

2 It may feel awkward/weird - You may not have had sex for a good while, it may be awkward to have sex with your postpartum body and you libido may be decreased. This is totally normal!

3 You may be a bit dry - Vaginal dryness is very normal (especially in those breastfeeding) due to prolactin suppressing the estrogen that lubricates the vagina. Invest in some lube!

4 It can be painful and uncomfortable - Not just physically but mentally too. If you haven't had sex in a while then it can be uncomfortable or even painful, especially with the dryness. Pain during sex can also indicate pelvic floor issues (discuss these with a WH physio to rule it out). If you haven't had a vaginal birth then it can be weird having something in there again!

5 You might not orgasm the first few times - I know, terrible right. But you may have to get used to each others bodies again. Get to know your own again (and if needs be, DIY). It can take time to find your groove again and settle back in to it.

Thank me later 👋