Are you performing or being during sex? Have you ever struggled with performance anxiety? Or struggle to orgasm due to pressure?

Sex is not a performance! You don't need to act like you're enjoying it if you're not! You don't need to make extra noise to sound 'right'. Your body doesn't need to look a certain way to be sexy! You don't have to like sex or a certain act just because that's what's expected'. You don't need to fake an orgasm to play the role! You don't need to perform a sex script!

Sex is not a performance but it's not your fault if you do perform. It's what we've all been taught to do during sex, so unlearning that is really hard! The start is to ask yourself what you want from sex, not what's 'normal'!

There is no 'normal' or 'right' way to have sex, be sexy or express your sexuality. You don't need to force yourself to do or be something you're not.