Should we move past gender?

As people become more comfortable with their identities, there have been movements by parents to raise their children without gender. They use gender-neutral pronouns for their child until they are old enough to choose their own, and give them an androgynous name to give them the freedom to find themselves.

In many anecdotes from these parents, however, we see a different story: they tend to stay away from gendered toys, but only the ones that conform to the ones that their children were assigned at birth. So, parents would keep their AMAB (assigned male at birth) children away from monster trucks, and AFAB (assigned female at birth) children away from dolls.

While this makes sense in a theorhetical sense, it begs the question: in a gender-neutral world, why would parents keep these toys away from their children? While marketed to "little boys" or "little girls," if a child is interested in the toys, then why keep them from each other?

Looking at the broad picture, however, this makes much more sense: by ensuring that their child doesn't box themselves into a label, it becomes their choice whether they want to apply that lavel to themselves. At what age can children decide their gender for themselves, though? While everyone has their own unique understanding of their gender identity and presentation, how do you give a child a structured life without that label? There are plenty of opportunities to do so- what do you think?