Attachment styles can change and evolve as one grows more conscious of the patterns and behaviour in one's relationships. Just because you are anxious or avoidant doesn't mean that you will have to be stuck with that. It is possible for you to change it to more secure and this starts with acceptance and attunement. For this you need to be patient, consistent and work for it and its going to be worth it.

The following are the signs to it:

• You will be comfortable in speaking your mind while being empathetic

• You value the time spend alone and you are okay with some time apart

• You are intune with your emotions and you are able to self soothe

• You are being able to discuss differences without catastrophizing

• You are being able to regain the ability to trust and assume the best

• You are being able to ask without the fear of rejection

• You can find displays of affection sweet and natural and you don't run away from it

• You are finally accepting who you are and not feeling the need to change for them to love you

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